My son blows me away practically every day.
I witness neurotypical individuals habitually fail to show both empathy and courtesy to other people.
But my son habitually displays both. It hasn't been without many conversations about why these things are so important. And it isn't at every opportunity that he feels these things naturally. But there are many moments when he does that make my heart swell so huge!
And today is one of those days. His best friend broke a bone in his foot this weekend. Today Zak made him a get well card.
In case the print is too small, he wrote:
I hope the joke I'm making doesn't "break" our friendship. :) -Get it? (No offence) I've never broken anything so I don't know how you feel, all I know is it hurts and I HATE IT when I get hurt :( So I want to cheer you up. On the next page is a comic I made to cheer you up :)
The comic is about a boy who thinks bomber planes are coming. Another boy tells him to relax, that it's just birds. The first boy then says that it looks like they are dropping bombs. The second boy looks annoyed and says "those aren't bombs, they're..." SPLAT! The first boy chuckles, "Bird poop."
That to me is as perfect a definition of empathy as possibly could be put on paper. And, yes, he is still autistic. He is also empathetic, clever, creative, a gifted drawer, and funny! Never underestimate our kids!